How to convince your partner that a dildo is your friend
For men and women alike, sexual prowess is often an important part of self-image. Many people who are slow to cum may notice annoyance and a feeling of loss in their partners, as the partner may feel that he is not big enough, interesting enough, or doing a good enough job of pleasuring the slow-cummer. All this can lead to tension and a breakdown of the sexual relationship.
Dildos can often be used to help a slow-cummer along. Self-exploration and masturbation using a dildo may help a person figure out just where the elusive G-spot is hiding, as well as just what she likes. Unfortunately, many sex partners may feel threatened by bringing a dildo into the love bed, as they may feel intimated having another dick get their partner off.
Open communication is key to convincing your man that the dildo is a helpful solution to an insidious problem. Start by creating a comfortable, relaxing, and inviting environment. Turn the lights down low and light some candles. Lock the door. If a feeling of security is difficult to achieve, turn on some music at a pleasing volume, or use a fan or white-noise machine to drown out any outside noises.
Try putting him in charge of the dildo and your pleasure. Lie down on the bed (or floor, couch, hood of the car), and whisper in his ear that you are all his. Encourage him to think of the dildo as purely an extension of himself. Talk dirty to get his mind reeling. Let him play with your body freely while you lie back and enjoy being pleasured. With an environment that encourages relaxation and you as his very own plaything, it won’t be long before he regularly asks “Where’s your toy?”
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