Multiple Partners in a Monogamous World
Tuesday, September 30th, 2008Though it can be easy to feel out of step with the standard mores of society if you have ever thought about anything other than the monogamous “norm,” rest assured that there are many people in the world who are living fully alternative lifestyles. Still many more are ready and willing to take a walk on the wild side, but haven’t…yet.
More and more often these days, you are likely to be acquainted with someone who considers her or himself polyamorous, or open to having more than one responsible romantic relationship concurrently. You may be curious because you have been invited to the kinky neighbors’ swinging party. Sometimes something within you just tells you it’s time to become more expansive. Whether you are interested in trying something new as a first time swinger, becoming a part of a long-term, loving poly relationship, or in any other form of expressing your sexuality, know that the keywords are honesty, safety, and communication.
Talk to your partner or partners. Rule #1 is that everyone involved should know what you’re up to. If, for example, you and your spouse are opening your relationship, be sure to talk A LOT. By developing trust, any new partner in the mix is more likely to become a friend rather than a threat. Should you decide to attend a sex party, discuss boundaries with your partners, and learn the swinging etiquette of the environment. Remember that latex is your friend; safer sex with all your partners ensures that you all stay healthy. Spend time developing trust, and then enjoy your voyage into the deep, rewarding world of multiple partners.