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My boyfriend and I had just had the sex toy talk for the first time a week ago. He is way more experienced with sex toys than I am. I was definitely interested in learning more but didn’t even know where to start. I was curious but wasn’t even sure what I would like. I hate to say it but so many sex toys just look silly to me! My worst fear was that he’d pull something out hoping to surprise me and instead of making me hot I’d erupt into giggles.

Luckily he found the perfect way to surprise me and fulfill my fantasies without making me worry about laughing and making him feel bad. His first gift of the evening was a blindfold. Once it was over my eyes he eased me into things with a sensual massage and then brought out the sex toys. I had no idea what he was using on me at any given time and I didn’t even care. I was able to lay back and enjoy all the new sensations.

After we were done he showed me the toys that got the biggest reaction from me and left them at my place so I could experiment with them myself. He also said now that he has an idea of what sex toys I like he has all kinds of ideas of what to bring over the next time.

There is no right or wrong way to buy sex toys, just like there are no right or wrong toys to buy. When it comes to sex toys opinion matters more than anything else, you are only limited by your imagination- and there are even sex toy games that can help you expand that! When it comes to buying sex toys for someone else, like a lover, a friend, or for a bachelor/Bachelorette party, it can be a little tougher to decide. We’re going to assume that if you are shopping for a sex toy for someone else that you are fairly intimate with them. So here are some things to keep in mind, or ask slyly before hand to get an idea of what is the best choice.

What materials do they like best? Are they looking for something that will feel the most like skin?

Are they fairly conservative, or do they like to get a little rough and wild?

Is this for them to use alone or with a partner (or two or three . . .)?

If you’re shopping for a lady, or a guy with a monogamous relationship, you should also try and figure out if they get off with clitoral stimulation, penetration or both.

A dildo or vibrator is usually a good choice when shopping for someone else. They can be pleasurable for both men and women. They aren’t “out there” enough to embarrass most people but are versatile enough the even experienced sex toy users can have fun with them. Best of all they come in a huge array of colors, sizes, and materials so you can really pick out something unique to that person.

My hubby and I just did a weekend trip for our anniversary. He rented us an amazing Vermont cabin out in the woods, with gorgeous scenery and LOTS of privacy. The biggest surprise wasn’t the room though- it was the erotic games he packed for the trip.

Neither of us are very experienced with sex toys. It’s not that we aren’t a little kinky_sometimes_,it’s just that we’ve never added kinky sex toys to the mix. I’ve definitely been interested but didn’t really know how to bring the idea up. I wasn’t worried he’d think anything I was interested in was too weird, more than anything I didn’t want him to feel like he was inadequate. I had no idea he had been feeling the same way!

The game was awesome. It not only showed us how little we actually knew about each other’s sexual preferences, it also helped us open up about our fantasies. We didn’t leave the cabin all weekend and the first thing we did when we got home was to go online and buy a bunch of sex toys to try out. It was such a turn on just talking about what we wanted to do to each other with kinky sex toys, I can’t imagine how hot we’ll get when we actually have some sex toys to try out on each other!

There is no place I like using my sex toys more than in the tub. Reclining in the bath tub I am in the perfect position to play with my adult toys. Whether you’re by yourself or with your partner there’s nothing more relaxing, or more titillating, after a long day at work!

If you’re wondering how to use sex toys in the bath the first thing to do is to make sure you’ve got the right toy. Not all sex toys are made to be waterproof- and even some that seem like they should be, aren’t. Even when I buy a sex toy that is specifically marked ‘waterproof’ I still test it out first by submerging it in a water filled sink and turning it on. This is also a good way to test the sound. You know how you’re always warned about being quiet if you have sex on the beach because of how sound travels over water? Well that goes for sex toys in the bath tub, too. I was very embarrassed one evening when I realized my normally quiet vibrator sounded much louder (me, too, while I’m being honest) when I used it for the first time in the bathtub. If you live with your partner this could be a good thing. If you’re living with roommates, probably not so much.

Another tip I’ve come across while learning how to use sex toys in the tub is that you still need to use lube. The water quickly removes the natural lubrication your body makes and a fun night of water play can end with you being sore the next day. Water-based lubes won’t do much for you when using your sex toys in the water, but any other lubricants will be just fine.

Bridal showers are usually family affairs, attended by several generations, many of whom aren’t as use to being open about their sex toys. It is, in many families, a little off color to include sex toys at the bridal shower. Bachelorette parties, on the other hand, are the time to be a little naughty!

Save the gifts of dinnerware and toaster ovens for the Bridal Shower so you don’t freak out the future mother in law, but you can really ramp up the Bachelorette Party by adding a few sex toys into the mix. Sex toys can be used in party games, as cake decorations; gifts for the Brides honeymoon and even as favors for the guests. Sex toys are truly the gift that keeps on giving.

This year Sex and the City themed Bachelorette parties are all the rage. And how better to add to the theme than to give everyone a sex toy like the rabbit vibrator made famous by the show? Other popular Bachelorette party sex toys are small bullet style vibrators, vibrating panties, and flavored massage oils and lubes.

I’ve actually done this quite a bit. My boyfriend has always had some kinky doctor/medical type of fantasies. We really mix it up. Sometimes he cross dresses as a nurse, sometimes I’m a patient, other times I’m the doctor. I think both of our favorites is a naughty receptionist scenario. For us the speculum is just one part of a larger overall fantasy that involves a lot of medical equipment. We also have some forceps types of things (great for gentle tugging and pulling), latex gloves, you name it.

We definitely use the speculum to ease the way for other anal sex toys and are working our way up to fisting. A lot of times he just leaves it in before going down on me. The pulsating throbbing feeling of coming combined with the hardness and inflexibility of the speculum is a really unique and pleasurable experience. It kind f gives you the same feeling as a butt plug without feeling as heavy or full.

Speculum play is great for non-anal play too! My bf uses it to open up my pussy and really get in there with his tongue and it’s awesome!

Most clubs are pretty good about being good guests. People that don’t follow swinging etiquette tend to not get invited to the next party. It is not uncommon for the people hosting the party to request that each guest bring some type of food or drink to share. I always make sure to put it out there that I’d appreciate some help with the food and I usually end up with way more than I know what to do with.

When I’ve had parties at my house as host I always walk guests through when they come in the door. I make it a point to put the designated coat room at the far end of the house so I can walk them through and give them the layout without being obvious about what I’m doing. I always have one sex free room, usually downstairs (first time swingers will LOVE you for this. It’s a great way to keep people from feeling pressured or uncomfortable) and I point out the one sort of out of the way room that is an “anything goes” group sex room. Then I let them know that the rooms upstairs are for people to pair off in.

Don’t stress and enjoy your party! Honestly, the swingers I know are better party guests than my regular friends. It’s a friendly laid back atmosphere and people don’t usually get plastered and make messes since they want to be on top of their sexual game in case they meet someone interesting!

I’m betting you’re the only pretty maid in this row. Some women just don’t want either the hassle or the look of shaving their pussies. Let’s face it, intimate shaving is her prerogative, and hers is the only prerogative that counts. But just because a lady wants to look like a lady, doesn’t mean you can’t dress for success. Simple, inexpensive hair trimmers can keep the garden neat while allowing for an au-naturale look. Combine a little cutting with keeping the bikini line shaved or waxed, and you’re not only not going to offend in the sack, but you’ll being stepping pretty at the pool or beach too.

Of course, you can keep your pubes and still get a little wild with the carpet. Smart Beauty Bikini Color offers an array of fun pubic hair dye colors, like pink and plum. Or you can shake things up and have him wondering which color is the real you, and dye your pussy hair a different color from your head hair. Say, if you’re brunette, take it blonde. For natural blondes, consider setting your pussy on fire by dying your pubic hair red. Either way, you’ll prove that the natural look doesn’t have to be dull.

If you are worried about your partner looking at porn because you have concerns about how that affects his perception of you and your relationship, consider making him some porn of your own. That way, when his need for voyeurism takes his eyes wandering, they can wander all over your body, even when you’re away. Plus, seeing you like that whenever he wants to will probably make him want you even more.

You can start by taking pictures of yourself in sexy costumes and poses. Just set your camera up on a tripod or any piece of furniture that is level with your bed, couch, or whatever part of the room you want to be in. Set the camera’s timing device and then use your home printer to print the photos — all in the privacy of your own home! You can blow-up the pictures and staple them together to make a pin-up magazine, or you can print them usual size and put them into a small, inexpensive photo album. Leave it for him when you leave for work, and you’ll see who he really fantasizes about when you get home.

Another great option is to take video footage of you masturbating and playing with sex toys. If you need ideas, look up some Internet porn yourself. Mimic some of the things you’d like him to do to you, and say that while you play. Most digital cameras and camcorders can easily be hooked up to a computer and you can create your own digital files. Leave the folder icon on his computer desktop, and attach a sticky note to his monitor, telling him to open the file when he’s alone. If you give him something of you to masturbate to, he’ll probably not have need for professional pornography any more, and you’ll have a great time making him this very special present.

The masturbation- as- cheating issue runs deeper than the “sex should only be with one person”. Masturbation stems from a primal need to achieve sexual release, and doing that with your partner isn’t always an immediate option. Things get complicated when the tools used to achieve arousal without a human partner take on too much meaning for the masturbater, or when the masturbater loses interest in having sex with his or her partner, due to either overly high expectations, or simply having self-fulfilled to the point of not wanting to have real, interactive intercourse.

Spending too much time with a fantasy can alter the way a person perceives their reality. For example, if a woman spends all of her free time looking at beautiful houses far out of her financial reach, she may become so disgusted with her own house as to either take on too much financial responsibility in the act of purchasing a “nicer” house, or may stop properly maintaining the house she has because she feels that it will never as nice as the ones she lusts after. Similarly, a man who spends a lot of time masturbating to images of beautiful, skinny women like Jenna Jameson may stop finding his partner attractive. Fantasies are wonderful, but if we allow them to consume us, they change the way we view reality.

So the question becomes one of expectations of reality. You may perceive, or think, that your partner is mastubator a lot. The real question is– does it really effect you? Are you not getting the sexual attention you need? Does your partner suddenly think you need to lose weight, even though you’ve not gained an ounce in a decade and he never had a problem with your body before? Does he suddenly prefer blondes? Is he suddenly extremely flirtatious with other female friends, or is he suddenly interested in things that you aren’t comfortable with? If the answer is “yes”, then it’s time to address the situation. But nobody can really answer for another couple whether masturbation is cheating. It is probably a question that you and your partner will revisit over the long years of your life together. The point is, you need to think beyond the porn to how each of your actions is affecting the other person.