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Hank Alvarez

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I had a rather unique insight from one of my least expected friends. A guy I’ve know for at least twenty years recently got divorced for the third time. This last gal was drop dead gorgeous and we were all hoping that the third time was a charm. He’s never managed to stay married for more than about five years and number three only made it for four years.
His third wife was everybody’s favorite and she’s a very social person. She mixed well with our crowd and when they split up I was curious and had to ask why. Straight faced, she said, “Well, I thought you knew he was gay.” To say the least that floored me. I don’t really care how a person gets off in the privacy of their bedroom but that was a real shock about someone I thought I knew well.
That was almost two years ago and we’ve managed to stay friends with both of them. We’ve kind of walked a tight rope since inviting each of them to social gatherings but to save glass ware, never at the same time. She’s come over frequently with a new beau but he’s always come alone. My trainer and her knock out lesbian lover have come over often enough for people to know that I don’t do anything different when they’re not there It’s never come up since, but recently my friend and I were sharing a pitcher of suds and a dozen wings at a local pub when the subject of blow jobs came up. And here was the insight that rocked me.
He said, “Most women don’t know how to suck a cock.” I asked him how he came to that conclusion and he said that the three women he’d married, and a number of others, were the least talented in that area.” He expanded to a criticism to how most of them ignore the balls and leave the guy wanting.”
My personal feeling has always been that we have to train each other as to our likes and dislikes and be as honest as possible in the bedroom without being hurtful. I’ve always felt very fortunate with my mate so I surprised myself and asked him, “Well, how did you learn?”
I guess his answer shouldn’t have surprised me but it did. He said, “By watching gay porn and mimicking what they did.”
We went our separate ways and I did like he said. There are a couple of adult porn sites that have gay porn and I watched oral video clips and looked out for what he said. I compared them to what you see on heterosexual videos and I immediately noticed the difference.
About the same time I remembered something my trainer said about cunnilingus, “That most guys can’t eat pussy worth a damn.” I wondered if all these years we’ve been going about this all wrong. Most of the videos of women performing fellatio were just like he said; they were just polishing the knob and ignoring the rest of the genitalia. Should the guys be watching lesbian sex scenes and studying their techniques and the girls watching the guys doing  each other and noting what they’re doing? I think I learned a lot today and just I wanted to pass it along to the class. HHH
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studley

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I have often thought that getting oral sex from someone of the same sex would be better because the person giving it knows best what feels good (what they would want done to them).

I suppose now I'll have to watch both and see what the difference is  (just what I need - another hobby :-)
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Annabanana

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YES! It can be hard to empathise someone's likes and dislikes when you don't share the same equipment AND THEY DON'T TELL YOU. What surprises me alot is to hear people complain and complain about how "so and so doesn't know how to do this or that." Why not just tell them?

I'll be honest with you-alot of women are just terrified of testicles. No idea what to do with them. I was lucky enough to have a very vocal boyfriend let me know they are a source of pleasure and not just something you push to the side. 
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Adriana

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Communication can certainly overicome this. IF you're bitching that you have to put up with someone doing it wrong, you're dong life wrong.
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Hank Alvarez

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Adriana: not always. We come to relationships sometimes with baggage and scars. After my first marriage ended, which I might add ended in sexual frustration, I had a number of relationships with other women until I met my present wife. The other ladies, when it came to oral sex, came as close to what could be described as a bad blow job as you can imagine. I think a lot of the things I know now would have helped them a lot. Sadly if you tried some of them today I'd bet my check against yours that they haven't improved one iota. There's a thing called an open mind that a good lover has to have and a willingness to learn. Now that they know where to look we'll have to see how many can and will change. HHH
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I was already married and had dropped off my son at my parents for my younger sister to babysit, while I did some shopping. I came back earlier than expected and let my self in. As I was passing the kitchen, the door was ajar and I caught sight of my sister giving her boyfriend a bj. I got closer to take a better look and saw my sister with this HUGE penis in her mouth, I was amazed at the size of it and that my little sister could take a large portion in her mouth. I then went back outside and made a ruckus before reentering, so that they could be alerted.

Two months passed before I had the nerve to ask my sister. She told me that her bf had an 11' penis and that she enjoyed giving him a bj. I was taken aback about the size of his penis, as he barely measures 5'6" and must weigh about 140; my husband is about 6'3", 225 and has (what I thought was huge) an 8' penis. She took a banana and put on a DVD about giving the perfect bj, as the DVD played she illustrated with the banana, until she had half of it in her mouth. I still practice and am getting better with the hubby and just started allowing my hubby to come in my mouth. My next step will be to swallow. Everytime we have oral sex I see my little sister with that huge thing in her mouth!!
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Agirl

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Onetoomany, that is just, wow. Kinda hot!
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Hank Alvarez

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Onetoomany: it sounds like she was exaggerating about the size. With an eleven inch dong he'd be making a lot of money on the silver screen and we'd all be watching him. If she can choke that down she is in fact a sword swallower. Most of the schlongs Linda Lovelace swallowed were pretty normal but with the aid of camera angles  they still made us guys feel very insecure.
What started this whole thing though was my friend's comment that so many gals just polish the knob on the end of the shifter when there's so much more to work with.
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Adriana

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Originally Posted by HHH

Adriana: not always. We come to relationships sometimes with baggage and scars. After my first marriage ended, which I might add ended in sexual frustration, I had a number of relationships with other women until I met my present wife. The other ladies, when it came to oral sex, came as close to what could be described as a bad blow job as you can imagine. I think a lot of the things I know now would have helped them a lot. Sadly if you tried some of them today I'd bet my check against yours that they haven't improved one iota. There's a thing called an open mind that a good lover has to have and a willingness to learn. Now that they know where to look we'll have to see how many can and will change. HHH


Well, okay. My definition of productive communications includes effort from both parties. If she's not listening.. it's not really communicating. Better?
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Hank Alvarez

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Adrianna: I always appreciate your comments. HHH
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