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Although still considered taboo in certain parts of the world, anal sex is quickly becoming a more accepted part of people's sex lives.

That said, there are certain things you can do to ensure that your backdoor fun is the best it can be, regardless of whether you're giving it or receiving it.

Now then, here are six tips to make anal sex pleasurable and a memorable experience for the right reasons every time you engage in the deed.

1- Don't insist on penetration

Although it's hard to believe, you don't need to stick your fingers or penis inside the rectum for the pleasurable sensations associated with anal sex. And when you're receiving anal sex, you don't need to have anything put inside you either.

By simply rubbing the anus or even licking it, known as rimming, the receiving person can derive awesome sensations.

2- Make it feel good all the time
Although many have told us that their first anal sex experience (and sometimes their second and third) hurt like a bitch, it doesn't have to. We're serious.

Now, if you aren't calm and relaxed, it's going to hurt. If one insists on shoving a penis (or dildo) inside (like ripping off a bandage in one shot), it's going to hurt. If you don't use lubrication, it's going to hurt.

You need to talk about it and both of you need to agree to do it happily; no one should be coerced into it. You also need to be patient and let the receiver lead the way. If you are going to engage in anal sex, let the receiver hold your penis and guide it in slowly. Go in about an inch, then pull out completely, then go in about an inch farther and pull out completely. Keep going in and out at one-inch intervals and pretty soon you'll be in.

3- Understand that there are 2 sphincters
Assphincter says: "what?" There are two sphincter muscles in the anus (if you place your finger inside about inch deep and press against the side, you'll feel them), and they are less than an inch apart.

While you can control the external sphincter at will, the internal sphincter is not the same. It reacts more in a reflexive way. So while your partner may assure you that they are relaxed and willing, their internal sphincter may prove otherwise.

The point is that you need to be patient and give your partner time to learn how to relax and try different positions to make it happen.

4- Stimulate the anal region while doing other things
The sensation of touching the anus or rectum alone may feel uncomfortable for your partner or even yourself, but couple it with penetration or oral sex, and suddenly it'll feel so much better.

For example, if you're engaging in vaginal sex, you can insert a sex toy into the female's anus to give her the sensation of DP, or double penetration. And she can insert a toy into yours while you're penetrating her or she's performing oral sex on you. It's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with.

5- Change your diet
If you don't eat fiber, raw vegetables and fruit, opting for a lot of processed foods instead, then you won't be contributing to a desirable anal sex experience.

Regular bowel movements are conducive to both comfort and confidence when it comes to anal sex. Adult film stars about to engage in anal sex always undergo enemas beforehand to ensure no "slip-ups."

So make sure that your diet is a healthy one and, although fiber is recommended, try to avoid eating it a few hours before you're set to engage in anal sex.

6- Obey the rules of hygiene
There's a reason why women have to wipe from front to back when they do No. 2 - trace amounts of feces may cause infection. The same rules apply to anal sex.

If you put your penis or fingers or toys in or around her anus, you cannot simply revert to her vagina afterward. There are ways to resolve this issue, however.

You can always discard the "anal sex" condom and put on a new one for vaginal entry.

As for your fingers, you can always keep baby wipes close by and wipe your hands before you use them on her vagina.

Remember; you can go from the vagina to the anus, but not the other way around. Hopefully you know your female anatomy.

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OK, thanks for that! which leads me to another question
if you are in a monogomous relationship and NOt worried about STDs is it better to wear a condom during anal? Like, does it improve the comfort level or cleanliness is what I'm trying to say.
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DeeDee -

It doesn't really affect the comfort level and it certainly doesn't change the cleanliness factor. If you are worried about him staying clean, by all means have him wear a condom. But you may be pleasantly surprized to see how "unmessy" anal sex can be.
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Can I use good old fashioned vaseline or do you have to use something specifically for anal?
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these young ladies so afraid of a little arse fucking crack me up..
boob-jobs, nose-jobs, teeth bleaching, tummy tucks, liposuction, botox, pierced nipple, pierced bellies, pierced clits, eyebrows plucked, bikini waxes, armpits shaved, legs waxed, tattoos, legs tattooed, diets, strenuous exercise, child birth.............and THEN, they won't take it up the ass 'cos: "IT HURTS"
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AntiHeroUK wrote:

these young ladies so afraid of a little arse fucking crack me up..
boob-jobs, nose-jobs, teeth bleaching, tummy tucks, liposuction, botox, pierced nipple, pierced bellies, pierced clits, eyebrows plucked, bikini waxes, armpits shaved, legs waxed, tattoos, legs tattooed, diets, strenuous exercise, child birth.............and THEN, they won't take it up the ass 'cos: "IT HURTS"


i'd take it in the ass before any of the above thank you very much!  ;D
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re: going front to back and back to front, does it really make a difference if she's had a complete hysterecomy?  Hank
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Hank Alvarez wrote:

re: going front to back and back to front, does it really make a difference if she's had a complete hysterecomy?  Hank


if you go back and forth you can give her a yeast infection even if she had a hysterctomy and that's no fun!
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Hank Alvarez wrote:

re: going front to back and back to front, does it really make a difference if she's had a complete hysterecomy?  Hank


Absolutely. Anal secretions can transfer bacteria from the intestinal tract to the vagina, causing bacterial infections in both the vagina and the urinary tract. It's important to keep anything that has been in the anus away from the vagina until it has been thoroughly cleaned.

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