I saw your boyfriends analogy and I had to write back, I AM an MMA fighter so I think its a pretty cool label..
I noticed you didnt mention either way, whether your boy was cool with toys for himself, I mean, you know, like is he cool with you playing with his ass at all? If he is I would very very strongly suggest the Share Penetrator by Fun Factory, its a strapless strap on that you insert into your pussy and then you use your inside muscles to sort of maneuver it, or you can just pound away if he can take it. My girl LOVES hers and while shes back there workin my prostate she swears she gets off too. The Feeldoes good too I hear but we bought the other one first so we never got to try the Feeldoe.
I love this guy.....