His Wife, he may be shy, but you can try.
I have a confession to make, believe it or not, when my man brought home our first sex toy, after many years of being together, I freaked out. He had asked me if I wanted one, and I thought, " I like skin, he's just being gross." (OK, it was a while ago, although sex was great, I was maybe as not as Sex Positive or Sexually Aware as I could be.) He bought a vibe anyway, and one night, (while we were starting to mess around) put the damn thing IN MY HAND! (BTW, not the way I would suggest introducing it.) I threw it at him, with some choice words, and went downstairs to cry alone. He apologized, and I wondered what was wrong with both of us. As the weeks went by I KNEW that vibe was in his drawer. And I was thinking about it. And although it was something I had fantasized about, he hadn't introduced it properly. Finally, one night, I was having a rough time cumming and I said, "What the hell. Grab that thing and let's see what happens." It was really FUN. I didn't want it turned on that time to vibrate, I still came, and we decided to lay down some parameters for sex toys. (I later learned that I really liked the vibration, but had to learn that, like I learned how to orgasm MANY years earlier by myself and then show him.) Our parameters (I don't want to say rules.) 1) NO latex (I'm allergic) and no "cheap" toys with softeners which could be carcinagenic (like jelly rubber toys, cheap, but really unhealthy for your body.) 2) "Skin Only" sex at least some of the time (I didn't want to become too dependent on the thing, and I haven't.) 3) That's about it. Since then the original developed a separation in the seam (and I learned that the funky smell it gave off, like a shower curtain, was due to plastic softeners, and outgassing of nasty elements of cheap vinyl, which are not good for you) we have bought a small number of new toys to add to our collection, a new expensive silicone vibe, a G Spot vibe, a hand held "mix master" (the Wahl 7 in1), which can be used for sex and/or massages, a nice antibacterial storage bag, some beads and a collection of interesting lubes. I'm currently in the market for a Bullet (must be VERY strong and VERY quiet) for travel and privacy and maybe some "learner" soft Velcro closure handcuffs. TALK TO HIM and see what he would like to do. He may not see the sex as monotonous. But, he needs to know you need more of a spark. And novelty adds a spark. I know it has been very important to our marriage to keep that spark with sexual novelty. I wouldn't just go out and buy a toy (unless it will be for your personal private use, and that really is up to you) take him to some of the more interesting sex toy shops on line, like the related Tabutoys.com here. My man bought our first one at a "dirty video store" and when I started looking online for more women friendly places, he was astounded at the variety, and very very turned on. Show him some of the sites and he may become very intrigued. Also a nice collection of porn can help immensely. As a younger woman, a bit brain washed to think it was "misogynist" but now I think it's just fun, as well as "medicinal" to our sex life as I have learned to take myself less seriously.
I can be tolerant of almost anything....except Intolerance........and Dairy Products