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By Isabella Snow - Relationship Correspondent - Every Thursday

All women fantasize about sex, just as frequently as men, and most of us do it with grandeur. Scenarios may vary, but there are several recurring themes in the most common female fantasies. Whether you’re dating a puritan or the neighborhood tart, deep down they share the same basic desires and have similar sexual cravings. While some of these desires may seem overly fantastical, they are not wholly implausible. With a little effort, you have a good chance of putting them into action. The following common female fantasies are more probable than you think; read on to find out why.

Your girl doesn’t have to be into whips and chains to fantasize about this one, as it covers rather a broad spectrum of naughtiness, ranging from dominating to being dominated. The latter is a particularly common female fantasy (even for dominant women), which often extends to capture fantasies involving consensual rape. We use the word "consensual" because she likely only fantasizes about experiencing this at the hands of someone she’s highly sexually attracted to, who will not injure or harm her during the act, who will instantly fall madly in love with her and probably want to marry her afterward. You can see why it falls under the heading of "fantasy." Women who fantasize about such things are often highly sexual women who feel guilty about their desires; guilt which can be easily assuaged with the right kind of encouragement from their partner.

Sex with a stranger

Hot, no-strings-attached sex is a common female fantasy for the simple reason that most women wouldn’t have the nerve to engage in this kind of thing without being fully liquored up. The idea appeals to her inner feminist; if she walks into a bar and takes a man home for an all-night shag fest, then she’s a modern, sexually liberated woman whom her girlfriends can admire. What keeps this a fantasy for most women is the fear of post-coital self-loathing at having behaved so wantonly. This type of fantasy is usually found in women who would like to be more sexually free than they currently are.

Sex in public
Society tends to demand a certain level of modesty and propriety from women, and that can really get on a girl’s nerves after a while. The idea of being naughty while random strangers pass by can be a massive turn-on for even the shyest of females. The appeal is partly due to shock value (which makes her feel powerful) and partly due to breaking a massive taboo (which makes her feel wild and wicked). It’s hard to imagine anything more sexually liberating than allowing others to watch you have a good lay. If she’s fantasizing about this, it indicates a decrease in sexual inhibition, which probably means she’s ready to take her present level of kink up a notch, whatever that may be.

Sex with two men
There isn’t a woman on earth who doesn’t enjoy being the center of attention when it comes to the affections of men, and this little fantasy just doubles the pleasure. The idea of two studly men focusing all of their efforts on her sexual experience, making her orgasm over and over again with no thought of themselves, is a truly common female fantasy. Another facet is being able to fully satisfy two men at the same time, which can make a woman feel sexually potent and powerful. This could just be a fantasy, or it could indicate that she feels her current partner isn’t seeing to her needs adequately; something easily rectified by putting forth a bit more effort the next time you’re in bed.

Sex with another woman
The vast majority of women, whether bisexual or not, have at least entertained the idea of having sex with another woman. And, of those women, most have at least fantasized about having hot lesbian sex with a gorgeous, sexy woman. The fantasy may or may not involve allowing a man to watch, but it’s not about having a three-way romp; this is something she imagines on her own, just herself and one other female. Fear not, this one doesn’t mean she’s less into you, or men in general; it simply means she finds the female form sexually stimulating. You can relate to that, surely?


This one covers a lot of ground, and it’s important to note that the word "role-playing" doesn’t necessarily denote playing dress up. Certainly, common female fantasies might involve dressing up like a hooker and having their man pick them up on the Boulevard, but it could also be as simple as imagining herself to be a stripper and giving you a private lap dance in your own home. By dressing up like someone else, she can act out her salacious fantasies while pretending they are someone else’s idea. Acting out this fantasy can be very beneficial for a relationship, as it can give a woman the courage to do the things she’s always wanted to do, but never had the nerve. If she’s mentioning this one, she’s likely ready to add some spice in the bedroom and just needs a little encouragement to get there.


While most women don’t really get turned on by the idea of watching others have sex, most of them do get incredibly turned on by the idea of being watched, themselves. Perhaps the most common female fantasy along these lines involves being watched in secret. This allows her to maintain her modesty, while still indulging her inner vixen.  This fantasy can sometimes mean she needs a bit more in the way of attention, or it can mean she simply gets off on the performance, rather than the experience. You can satisfy this urge easily enough by videotaping your next sexual encounter.
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