Tabu Mod wrote:
What kills me is these are kids
we're talking about. When did teenagers become so violent? When I was young, sure there were fights, sure there was harassment, definitely close-minded kids hating on open minded kids. But I don't recall anyone getting hospitalized or beaten so hard they were on the verge of death. What's gotten into our youth? Is there really that much parental neglect? Or are parents teaching hate?
I think it's a mix of both. Many parents feel that they are limited to how they can discipline their kids and feel very powerless or just don't care. It seems like we now have a generation of teens and young adults who treat having a child like it's a pet or an accessory because in the past few years, particular in 2005 and 2006, celeb pregnancies had become so common and popular and celebrated and it wasn't just celebs between the ages of 30-50 but also 20 somethings and 16 year old Jamie Lynn Spears making it hot. Not to mention some mothers getting reality shows and praise for having so many children. That could cause some parental neglect. Not to mention I have seen it with my own eyes that when dealing with adopting a child or being a foster parent, these parents can basically pick and choose what child they want or don't want. And with mothers who have children, it's becoming more acceptable for them to say "I don't want/can't handle my child, I will put it up for adoption." Instead of taking responsibility and I'm not against adoption or even abortion but I was raised to believe that if you get pregnant, you have to "live with the consequences" and consider that if you do give your child up for adoption that the child would question your love for it. And I think these behaviors may have contributed to increased parental neglect and abuse.
And also on the side of parents teaching hate. I especially feel from the side of the right winged Christian conservative movement that hate particularly for the homosexuality community is being pushed and taught frequently. Part of my conflicts with the GLBT community was due to the parental and church influence of my child and teenhood that taught me homosexuality was wrong and for the record that any "odd" sexual behavior or "non-marital" sexual practices was dirty and wrong so that's why I'm so "bipolar" when it comes to sexuality. So this could be why teens have become so aggressive toward "student with differences". It's a paradoxical world we live in. On one hand, everyone is to be accepted and free to be who they are and want to be but on another hand, there's still "acceptable" vs "unacceptable" behavior in today's world. I'm kind of glad I'm not a teenager anymore but I'm not quite old enough to be so set in my ways. I'm a young adult, in some ways, I'm still growing and it's been quite difficult for me.