Awesome! First, let me say congratulations on being able to be honest and open up to asking for help and advice. At 56 that's quite the feat, as a lot of your male peers are afraid to talk about the natural biological changes in their bodies. I continue to be amazed at how strong generational values can be, especially when talking (or NOT talking) about sexuality. Even in today's age of sexual liberalness, those childhood societal values still are pretty strong and keep many men from seeking the help they need to reclaim the joys of sex. That being said, time to strap in (pun not intended) as this post is a bit lengthy, but I like to exhaustively answer questions. In other words, you were warned! LOL. I'm going to answer your question in 3 parts. The first part is a primer on sex toys. The 2nd is a safety warning. The 3rd is my personal recommendations on which toys to purchase for your needs (budget needs aside). Part 1 - The Basics of Sex Toys When your purchasing your sex toys there are many factors to consider, but the key ones I usually focus on are: [list] [li](a) Know the Sex Toy Market[/li] [li](b) Purpose Dictates Choice[/li] [li](c) Usage: Alone or Together?[/li] [li](d) Effect and Precaution[/li] [li](e) The Budget[/li] [/list] [color=black](a) As you are a beginner when it comes to sex toys, you should try to choose the perfect toy so your not stuck with a $25-50+ lump of junk. Research the sex toys market, leave little room for mistakes. (b) Once you have got the research out of the way, its time to look at the purpose of the sex toys. The purpose of most sex toys is to stimulate and/or penetrate. The purpose, therefore, is the key to making the right choice. (c) Another factor that dictates the choice of the sex toy is the usage. You might want to use it as a solo sex toy or might want to get your partner into the act. The end user dictates the needs of the product. The toy must be something that the intended user(s) can have fun with, and in your case at the same time. (d) All sex toys need to be used AND stored, keeping specific instructions in mind. You need to be extra careful with the use of some sex toys, especially of the kinky variety. Say, you are using a sex toy like the cock ring. One of the precautions to be maintained is that you need to stop using them after around 20 minutes. If you are not aware of this you can damage the penile channels responsible for blood flow and erection. BTW, generally cock rings are not considered kinky, I was just making an example. (e) The price of the sex toy is an important factor that needs to be considered, while choosing the toy. Sex toys are available in varying price range, and it's your budget limitation that decides which price range you zero in on. Some of the functional sex toys are economical, while the luxury sex toys are quite expensive. Search the market thoroughly for the kind of sex toy that fits your budget. While shopping you may end up seeing dollar signs, especially if you look at high end toys, but I assure you that just like any other purchase you can make your sex toys should be considered an investment. You wouldn't buy just any car to get you around, and you shouldn't take sex toys lightly either (the joy they are meant to provide aside). Additionally, consider the safety of your product when considering how much to spend.
DocErotiq is a sex and relationship guru, historian, rights activist, and adult education specialist.