Carson398
Hey everyone, I'm a 42 years old guy, who is in a very serious relationship with a 28 year woman. She has had a rough past with abusive boyfriends and drug use. We have been seeing each other for 2 years. We have been having sex on a regular basis out to about 3 months ago. She had started counseling and a new medication for depression and anxiety. She is asked me to be patient with her and give her some time. I have been so horny and wanting to make love to her. She doesn't want to have regular sex. We have talked things over multiple times. I am also now seeing a counselor in my counselor says what she is doing is wrong, sometimes you have to bite the bullet and do what you don't want to, but there needs to be some kind of sexual contact in a relationship for it to be healthy. My counselor says she sees couples all the time with the same problem. She says one partner has a lower sex drive than the other partner and they need to try to meet in the middle. She says to have a good relationship you need sex. When I told my girlfriend about this, she got very mad and told me that I had not been listening to her when we had talked. She told me that this was just a temporary thing and that we would go back to having sex on a regular basis she just needed some time. I asked what I thought most guys would ask how much time is it going to be. She said she wasn't sure. We both have come from relationships that had sexual problems in it. I had no sex in my marriage for the last 2 and a 1/2 years. Her last boyfriend of about a year and a 1/2 pretty much wanted it every night. He would get very angry with her if she refused. I have talked to her about it and she thinks that that is the only thing that's on my mind. She said I didnt hear anything else she said. We both have been under a lot of stress our jobs. I am still dealing with my ex wife about custody with our youngest son who lives with me in my girlfriend. It is so frustrating because I love her in a love spending time with her and I love making love to her. She is great in bed. I have never had another woman who wants to cum the same time I do. She wont let me pull out. She wants me to cum in her. She doesnt want me to ever ware a condom. This whole thing is so frustrating. I masterbate to take the edge off. I want to try to see if she will at least get naked and let me jack off to her, instead of porn. I'd love a hand job. Some physical contact or verbal encouragement while masterbating. I dont want to sound to freaky to her. She likes porn, she watches it with me sometimes. What can I do?
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BetterSexEverettWA
WEll, you do have the 2 years of foundation. That said, it is a difficult picture. Maybe, if you really want to be with her. STOP! Give her all the space... Maybe be a friend first and the other will rekindle. Sounds like she is going thru many changes...
Good Luck... Hope it works itself out.
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Sex is crucial. Your partner’s low libido will always make you feel unappealing. This sounds harsh, but either she should get help or you should find a better match.
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Carson398
Since writing this, we have had sex a couple of times. We have did a lot of talking about us and things. She has stopped taking her depression medication, per her doctor. It was making her feel worse. We both understand where the other is coming from now. She is thinking of a major job change, so that she is home more often at night and on weekends. She hopes it will take a bunch of stress off her also. Her doctor agrees with it. Less stress a normal sleep pattern, and more family time will help us in bed. She especially has noticed a change in me since I changed jobs. She like it a lot. She wants to do the same. I can't wait till we have more bed time together. She is great in bed. Thanks for the responses.
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