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Perhaps one of the most frustrating sexual blunders for men, second to impotence, is premature ejaculation. What happens is that they orgasm and ejaculate very early in the sexual experience, before intercourse or shortly after penetration is accomplished. This can be very frustrating, as it shortens the love-making session for both partners, decreases the enjoyment of the orgasm of the man, and occurs before the woman has had much of a chance to become stimulated, much less achieve orgasm. Fortunately though, there are several things you can do to increase your sexual stamina and make sex more enjoyable for you and your partner.

Communication

The most important aspect of a relationship is communication. This is no different, and in fact is more important for a sexual relationship. If you're having problems, talk with your partner about it. Don't be ashamed to discuss the situation and try to come up with mutual solutions to your problems. If you're ejaculating too early, talk with them about some of the things you could try to make love-making last longer and more enjoyable for both of you.

Stopping and starting

Many men that ask for help in prolonging their coital experiences never even consider the possibility of interrupting intercourse in order to prolong their sexual tension. Love-making can be a very deep and detailed experience, and doesn't merely have to be intercourse alone. Once you are about to reach the point of no return, try withdrawing and stimulating your partner for a while by masturbating her or performing cunnilingus. Of course, you should talk with them before you engage in sexual activity so you know what she likes and is willing to let you try. Once you've stimulated her for a while, and given your organ a chance to settle down a bit from lack of direct stimulation, resume intercourse. Stop again once you get too excited, and repeat the process as long as you want. Women often take much longer to reach a climax than men in the first place, so increasing your stamina can help even out the field and help both of you enjoy sex even more.

Foreplay and sexual positions

Often couples will engage in extremely erotic foreplay, which leads into the most stimulating sexual positions for both couples. If you find yourself getting too excited because your pace is much too fast, just slow down. Take time to enjoy every little aspect of the love-making experience with your partner. Talking, cuddling, kissing, and messages can all serve to slow things down and help both of you get closer to each other sexually and emotionally as you enjoy the total sexual experience.

Squeeze it

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, try withdrawing fully or partially and squeezing the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it, applying firm pressure. You can also have her do this if she wants. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response, but be sure to apply it before you start ejaculating, once you start its too late!

You can also try applying this technique just under the head of the penis. Once the urge to purge has subsided a bit, resume intercourse for a while and see if it is helping you.

Condoms

Many couples claim that wearing condoms lessens the feeling and sensitivity of intercourse substantially for both of them, so if you aren't wearing them to protect yourself, try wearing them to increase your stamina.

Masturbate

Perhaps the best method for releasing tension and increasing sexual stamina involves masturbating before a sexual experience. Don't do it RIGHT before you have sex, but for example if you are going to go see her, masturbate a few hours before you'll be having sex.

Combinations

Using just one of these techniques can easily become tiresome after a while. Try using different techniques to slow yourself down, and you'll be sure to keep the act exciting and fresh!
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tomalam
thank you for the information
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Adriana
Communication is key here! Just because you came earlier than you wanted doesn't mean we are not satisfied. I have an article about this on my site because I think the problem with premature ejaculation is more one of peer pressure than an actual problem. Don't assume it's bad until you've talked about it. Then you can take some steps to fix it.
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Hank Alvarez
If you read above then i think you'll agree that there are degrees of this. Frustration? You bet. There's no bigger bummer I know of than losing your load before your honey does and leaving her stranded with a limp wienie. Our solution is to work on her. Girls just naturally take longer to get there. Even at my age it doesn't take much to get me off the first time. Get her right up to the edge, and then jump on and ride her cowboy, because if we can time it just right, hot damn it's wonderful! Otherwise, it's oh, shit.  Hank 
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Adriana
I think Hank is right but.. that's not the whole issue. I don't know why it's so acceptable for a guy to simply quit once he orgasms - there's no reason he can't switch or oral or bring out a toy or fingers until his lady can get off, too.
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Hank Alvarez
Adriana: It's not that you want to quit, and maybe it's just an issue of my age, but dear after I come there's nothing there. She taken the lead out of my pencil, the flower has bloomed and the stem wilts. It's like trying to get a cooked wet noodle up a wild cat's ass. When this does happen, and thank God it's not as often as it was when I was younger, I go down on the pussy for all it's worth and do anything she wants to make amends or anything I can. The problem is that you've usually lost the intensity of the moment. I don't know how to explain it, but if you get off together, and that was the intent, it just doesn't get any better than that, it's wonderful, but if I lose it prematurely then it's the last two words in my previous commentary, oh shit.

I don't think I've ever gotten off first except maybe on the third or fourth time. But that's why I married a teacher, she'll make me keep doing it until I get it right. For what it's worth, she says I get an A but then I think she's an easy grader. Hank 
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Adriana
Hank, it's not any different for females, though. Yet we always have to "push on."
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Hank Alvarez
For what it's worth, I had a very knowledgeable lover in college when I was much younger and it was really a problem and she would take control of the situation by firmly squeezing my just under the head of my penis where it comes off the shaft. At first it was pretty painful but it did the trick, I got used to it, and then she made up for it by getting me up again. Slowing the pace and deep breathing helps too. Hank
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DJ in LA
There's a whole range of things you can try.  I tend to avoid pills/sprays, but I really liked "CSM" and would  recommend it to anyone. 

I got it from http://www.longer-lasting-sex.com and it really helped, so if you've got a problem with PE then I would strongly suggest you check it out. 

It also has a complete guide for everything else yo could want to do in bed, but the main thing that helped me was lasting longer.  I'm not spamming and don't normally post links, I just think this could be a benefit to some guys out there.  I mean pe has got to be one of the worst things to deal with.

It made me feel about two inches tall.

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dreamer60
I'm happy to say that in the two years Roadie and I have been together, there has been a signifigant improvement in his lasting ability.
The fact that in his previous two marriages sex was a get it when you can sort of deal made him anxious. He always made sure they got theirs and once that happened, he HAD to hurry and get his. This caused some issues.
Now we take our time. There's a good deal of start and stop...or rather....just slow down a little, but the sex is very good and I cum several times. We have great communication and that's a huge plus.
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Hank Alvarez
My honey has a sure fire cure for the problem. She says, "Love the pussy," and I do, and as i do it excites me and that seems to be the solution. Get her up to the edge then grab a hold, hang on, and the two of you can go over together. Hank
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