ireallywanttoknow
I go to the porn store and I see these toys.  The first thing that comes to mind is how do I use this to please my wife.  I am trying to get my wife to think the same way about them for me.  If I don't ask for something it doesnt happen.  I always come up with something new for her.  I would like her to do the same for me.
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Roadie
If she is going along with your ideas and you are enjoying them and she is enjoying them...dont worry if she doesnt have some of her own. I think you will find that some of the ideas you have had, she has thought about in some way or another. Around our house, I am the "Idea Man" and its great! Keeping your ideas flowing will keep both of you flowing!
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Tabu Toypro
Sounds like you need to start the conversation on it. Next time you're going to the store or browsing online for sex toys, invite her to join you. Maybe you can hint around to what you'd like and ask for her opinion. Definitely involve her more in the talks and ideas about what you need. Then ask if there's anything specifically she wants or fantasizes about.
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ireallywanttoknow
I have actually had that conversation with her.  She said that she would be perfectly happy with just making love to me.  She claims to have no fantasies at all.  I am not sure that I believe this.  Everyone has fantasies!  I am thinking that for some reason she is shy about sharing them.  I don't understand why as I have been all about sharing them.
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Tabu Toypro
I guess then the real question is, does she mind the toys? I think you stated somewhere else that she disliked using them on you but does because it pleases you. It seems she's just a bit more inhibited than you. Don't force it too much or she may be pushed farther away from ever enjoying toys.

If she's fine just making love with nothing else incorporated, then my suggestion is to keep on making love. Maybe you can keep the toys for your masturbation sessions. I know it's not the same as being pegged by your lover, but again, if she's not enjoying it...

On the fantasies - some people would be mortified about having to admit what they really want or secretly desire. I wouldn't press it. Just go on, knowing you're the one who gets to initiate the new ideas. When she raises a flag, explain to her that is why you want her input - so you're both satisfied. Good luck!
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