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OK, you're scared. Calm down, please, and keep reading—this may not be as big a deal as it seems. A lot of abstinence-only types want you to believe that condoms are as fragile as soap bubbles and that terrible diseases and pregnancies are inevitable, which is just not true, A broken condom is an emergency, but it's not a huge emergency.

First, head for the nearest convenient spot and take a leak. Peeing helps flush fluids and viruses away from places where they shouldn't be.

Don't douche or take an enema; the solution can push viruses into any small abrasions in your vagina or rectum. And don't use chemicals like nonoxynol-9—recent research has shown them to be too likely to cause inflammation, so they might make the situation worse.

Next, sit down and have a talk with your partner. (We'll assume for the purposes of this discussion that he was the one wearing the condom.) Find out whether or not he came. Also, exchange names and phone numbers if you don't already have that information—you're not thinking as clearly as usual right now, and you may find that new questions will come up later.

Examine your partner's penis for rashes, bumps, sores, and discharges. Ask him if he's recently had any symptoms or any pain with urination. Your doctor will use this information to figure out the best way to take care of you—you and she may decide to start you on STD treatment right away, or wait to see if you develop any symptoms.

Find out if your partner is HIV positive. If he is, you'll need to know what medications he's taking, his current CD4 count and vital load, and if he's ever had resistance testing. This information will help your doctor to make decisions about the best course to take in protecting you from contracting the virus.

It's easier to contract HIV (and other STDs) if the condom breaks in your rectum than if it breaks in your vagina. Disease transmission from a broken condom in the mouth is even less likely, and from a condom that breaks outside your body and drops fluids on your skin less likely still (highly improbable, actually).

Whether or not you know your partner to be HIV positive, visit your doctor or clinic the next day to get tested and to discuss the possibility of HIV prophylaxis. They'll probably want you to come in several more times at intervals of a few months to be retested. If you're clear at the end of six months, you're out of the woods.

If it's possible that you might get pregnant—e.g., you're a fertile woman and you were having vaginal intercourse—visit a doctor or clinic the next day to see if they think it's a good idea for you to take the morning after pill. These aren't fun, but they work... but they have to be taken with 72 hours, preferably sooner.

If you start to feel like you've got the flu within a few days after a condom failure, call your doctor right away. You've probably just, well, got the flu, but occasionally a primary HIV infection manifests in this way.

And above all, please don't panic. The chances that you've gotten pregnant or contracted a disease are a lot less than the scaremongers would have you think (thank God, if you'll pardon the expression). Good luck!

Column Sex Disasters Date authored2009 » Jun 2009 » Jun 19 2009 Author Charles Moser and Janet Hardy
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Really, though, it's smarter to ask those questions (regarding STDs) BEFORE having sex. I mean, really, condoms do not protect against every STD and a quick glance doesn't tell you jack about a person's sexual health.

There's also an alternative to the morning after pill - an IUD.
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